If trying BDSM in the bedroom is something you are interested in, it’s important to learn as much as you can about it before trying it, and realise how it can be done safely and the best way for you to stay safe. If you lack knowledge of staying safe during BDSM, if could likely result in you or your partner being hurt, which is something that we don’t want! You never want to rush into BDSM without doing some research, so I have put together a few rules so that you can stay safe and have fun.
Establishing BDSM rules minimises risks of anyone getting hurt, whilst still giving you the opportunity to have some fun and enjoy what you are doing. You don’t need to necessarily to follow all these rules exactly but if your play embodies these rules, it means that you are most likely doing things safely and correctly.
Use a safe word
Safe words are a way to promote safety when you are exploring the world of subs and doms BDSM dating. A safe word is a word you can say (or signal if you are being gagged), that as a submissive once you say the safe word the play will stop and the word will keep you safe. A safe word can be anything you want it to be, as long as you both know that once either of you say the safe word the play pauses or comes to a halt entirely. As a dominant, you will need to respect the subs
Recognise the risk
BDSM is never entirely without a risk, although you can prepare to some extent for any risks with knowledge. Once you begin to acknowledge that there is a risk involved with bdsm and dominatrix then you can begin to start playing. The idea is that it should involve hurt and not harm, and BDSM play should not result in any long term harm.
Communicate openly and honestly
Communication is essential during BDSM play and it is required for sex to be fulfilling, especially when it comes to BDSM sex. You should be able to talk about your needs, desires, thoughts and feelings, as well as being able to understand the other person. You should consider how safe you feel playing with your partner, how confident you feel in your skills, what your limits are, and if you have any particular interests. Once you figure out the answers to these questions, you may have a better understanding of both yours and your partners needs.
Prepare for the worst
An essential rule of BDSM play is to be prepared for an emergency, which means having a phone within reach to call 999 if you need to. You should never leave a bound person alone, and you should have a pair of scissors nearby if you need to quickly remove bindings, however make sure the scissors are sterilized before and after you use them. Have a first aid kit on hand and also a fire extinguisher nearby if you are working with candles or flames, and most importantly, have fun!
